We often stop "seeing" our partners, replacing them with our frustrations. Choosing love means intentionally looking for their virtues and expressing gratitude for them.
When we believe love is an emotion, we become "love-consumers." We stay as long as the product (the feeling) is being delivered. When the feeling fades, we assume the love is gone and leave. We often stop "seeing" our partners, replacing them
Most people define love by the "spark"—the rush of dopamine and oxytocin that characterizes the beginning of a relationship. However, feelings are notoriously fickle; they fluctuate based on stress, health, and external circumstances. When the feeling fades, we assume the love is gone and leave
If love were merely a feeling, it would be impossible to promise it "until death do us part." You cannot logically promise to feel a certain way in thirty years, but you can promise to act a certain way. Viewing love as a choice elevates it from a chemical reaction to an act of the will. The "God’s Sophistication" Perspective If love were merely a feeling, it would
Resentment is the natural byproduct of two imperfect people living together. Choosing love means making the proactive decision to process and release bitterness.